AKA How to Know Another Person
Jesus was such a skillful questioner, I think curiosity like you say is the key. Mostly when I assume I know what's going on I fail to ask questions and I continue rightly or wrongly in my assumptions. Its lazy for the most part. Attentive communication is much more skillful than i imagined. I too have that heightened sensitivity from childhood and I have found it such a burden until recently when I added in a few boundaries and respected my limits.