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Michele Brenneman's avatar

Thankyou for sharing- I can relate to much of this - in regards to church - since the pandemic we have been attending on line. I love the church we attend (we moved during the pandemic so we are almost an hour away from our church and have not looked for one closer to home) my husband prefers this and I do enjoy watching with him - I love our pastors, they truly speak from the word - not mixing in politics thank goodness - but I have always felt weird in the church - there are always the groups who know know each other, or grew up together and typically all get together after church. I tried to hang out for coffee only to start visiting with someone and then have my conversation interrupted by someone else and then kind of just left standing there. As a result of this happening way too much I would just attend the service and then leave - so online feels better. I wrestle with that we should be worshipping with the body and we are happy to help out when ever - but the actual in church space has often been hard for me, I never feel like I quite fit - I hope that makes sense. Michele

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Emily Love's avatar

Ah Liz. Thank you for sharing this tender part of your story. It’s restorative to me. I resonate with so much you shared.

I’ve been the one who hasn’t wanted to return since my own experience in an Acts 29 debacle. Just recently something opening up inside me that said, “I want to go to church.” It is the most unfamiliar and familiar feeling all at once since most of this last decade I’ve had a very tenuous relationship with the building and organization but deeply believing I’m a part of the body + connecting communally in other ways. My partner is the one who suffered more hurt but has been surprisingly quicker to re-enter. I just have not been ready to jump back in after holding so much of his hurt and others’ hurts that became my own in ways (some rightful carrying and some codependence myself 🙋🏻‍♀️). 18 months ago my doctor asked about traumas and I mentioned church + how it had affected my partner, dearest friends, me. He looked at me with the most gentle eyes + after a minute said, “About the church stuff - there’s no timeline for that. Keep doing what you’re doing and trust.” With minimal details, he pastored me in ways I hadn’t been pastored in years in my adult life. So I let myself actually rest on Sundays until I was ready. And ever so unexpectedly in the last month or two some little green leaves have been showing up on my wintering branches. I still don’t know how to re-enter much more than take the pew, but my eyes are open and palms are up, taking his advice to trust. So much love to you as you are bravely doing the same. ❤️

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