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oh gosh, this was painful to read, and I can't thank you enough for sharing. I mostly learned from my family that holding hands / dancing leads to unwanted pregnancies. So instead, I read a ton of books that I wasn't supposed to that talked AROUND sex, and then learned A LOT after I got married, culminating in reading Come As You Are several years ago. I feel like I'm still learning and catching up.

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Nov 17Liked by Liz Charlotte Grant

Ok this is wild. I didn’t know it was a common thing to take kids on a “fun trip” to chat about the birds and the bees. I thought I was the only one 🤣 my mom took me to Carowinds and we definitely listened to the tapes on the long drive there and back. I had an uncomfortable time because it was awkward and impossible to have fun with the awkwardness hanging over us.

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I also learned about sex from probably this very cassette tape - just in the minivan with the whole family 🙈 mortifying! Thanks for listening so we never have to again. Especially grossed by these lines: “Those who have premarital sex may experience personality changes, becoming cold, bitter, and miserable. And if you’ve had sex even once outside of marriage, you may never enjoy sex again. But you won’t have to worry about that as long as you and your partner both have never had sex.” Ugghhhhh

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Nov 17Liked by Liz Charlotte Grant

Are these exact quotes from the Dobson tape, or a paraphrase? Because good grief, they're awful.

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"Boys will begin to show interest in your body, but you will only be attracted to their personalities." WHAT. Sorry, Liz. My story isn't much better. My mom sat down with me and a book (Christian publisher) and blushed whenever I asked her questions.

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