the Empathy List #69: How to Cure Weariness
Hint: Practice Resting
Hey friend, Liz here.
How do you know when you’re tired? When you don’t have anything else to give? When you’ve reached empty?
I take my cues from my husband. After I received a brutal round of rejections for book #1 in May (and couldn’t stop crying…), he mandated that my summer break begin early.
Sigh. I’m a self-starter, entrepreneurial, internally motivated do-er. That means I can do a LOT in a day (even in my stay-at-home mom days, my fellow stay-at-homers would gawk at the list I’d managed to accomplish with a slobbering creature around ;-)).
Yet living at such a pace does not bring out the best in me.
I need seasons of downtime or I spiral into depression and anxiety; I can lose myself.
So, if my husband happens to notice my weariness before I do, that’s a clue that the sprint must end ASAP. (He’s a wise and kind man.)
My summer practice of rest has been a journey… but I’ve realized, that’s just the particular way that I rest. I lose myself in creative projects that seem unrelated to anything else, I rearrange all the furniture in the house, I finish zero books from cover to cover, I obsess over the vegetable garden and blitz up gallons of jam from farmer’s market produce (so far I’ve filled the pantry with 12 jars of apricot marmalade and a stock of preserved tomatoes for homemade tomato soup and marinara in colder months).
In case you can relate to my weariness on any level, here’s how I’m curing my own weariness:
1. Plant a seed, any seed, in dirt you own. Water and watch. (You’re planting delight.)
2. Pray. Or at least get quiet and still. Or at least practice the spiritual discipline of taking a nap.
3. Play a board game with your child and let them win. (Don’t forget to notice how cute they are when they gloat.)
4. Drink fizzy water all day long, like a European, and remember how you used to dislike it when you actually lived in Europe and how the way our taste buds change is as deep a mystery as blackholes.
5. Go on humid walks across a nature preserve and listen to British Victorian era whodunits in your headphones. (Hint: It’s never the servants who do the deed.)
6. Establish some family food rituals: eat pizza on Fridays, walk the aisles of the farmer’s market on Saturday, and picnic on the grass on Sundays.
7. Binge watch Ted Lasso, and try to copy his endless optimism in your own head.
8. Take up singing in the shower. Or at least stand still long enough to let the water fill all your gullies, all-over warm, like a hug.
9. Come to think of it, ask your partner for a long hug.
10. Read Annie Dillard slowly, savoring every lyrical word on the musty page as gift from a kind God who speaks as easily through the clouds as through the onionskin pages of your Bible. That’s the good stuff.
Your turn: how are you spending your summer, friends? Reply to tell me!
Thanks for reading. Warmly, Liz Charlotte Grant
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